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What is Love?

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What is Love?

spirit-15701__180What is love?” is perhaps one of the most pondered about questions of our existence. Is it a feeling? An emotion? Is it who we are? Is it something we all feel? Love can make us feel and do many different things in our lives and today we’re going to explore the idea that there may be two types of love: healthy love and unhealthy love.

Types of Love

To set up the context for this exploration, let’s quickly define what’s going on here. Generally we hear love defined as either conditional or unconditional. Conditional love would be loving something based on a certain set of conditions being met. i.e. “I only love this person if they do this for me, if they don’t, then I don’t love them.”

Unconditional love would be more so “regardless of your choices and the fact that they may have caused me to experience painful emotions, I still love you because I recognize the purpose of our journey.” Note, this does not mean unconditional love means sacrificing, staying in unhealthy relationships or abuse etc. It simply means the feeling of love is always there. Like a mother or father loving their child.

Healthy Love Versus Unhealthy Love

Leaving the ideas of conditional and unconditional love aside for a moment, let’s look at two types of love.

Unhealthy love can be seen as giving up aspects of yourself simply to please someone that you might be with. It can also come when you depend on the other person or need them for your own happiness or joy. Unhealthy love can be addictive and keep you locked up in stagnant periods of life where you use this form of love to avoid moving past your own challenges. Simply, unhealthy love is more about what the mind’s idea of love is. It can often involve playing games, manipulation, sacrifice and so on, all of which you will notice is quite draining to do, yet you can’t let it go.

Healthy love is something that is mutual between two people and no one gives themselves up to experience it. It is based on a feeling within versus what’s going on on the outside. It’s about allowing your partner to go through their own experiences and not judge them. Support them and understand them regardless of if they may have triggered a button within you. Together, you are open, can communicate and grow. You don’t need each other but simply work as a team to move through life.

How To Experience Healthy Love

The bottom line is, whatever experience you are having now is totally fine. Why? Because even if it isn’t entirely what you want, it plays the role of showing you how you feel when you are outside of your soul’s desires. Accept the experience you have right now and thank it for showing you another color of life.

To transform your experience of love, look at the many facets of unhealthy love and see if any apply to you. If they do, reflect on each piece and find the source of why you feel it’s there. For example if you feel you are addicted to your partner or need them around, ask yourself why that is. Writing things down and reflecting on it or talking to a person with experience in moving past the challenge can also help.

In the end you are looking to find out why you are feeding that need for the other person (or whatever challenge is unique to you). It could be because you don’t feel complete within yourself. It could be because of a past pain or reluctance to put yourself out there. Whatever the case may be, as you reflect and become aware of it you understand more about yourself and in turn can choose to move beyond it and process those emotions.

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Massage, work and play — A natural combination

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Whether we are at work or play, the last thing we want is to be injured or suffer unnecessary pain and discomfort. Just as important as preventing injury is looking after the aches and pains we already have so they don’t become chronic and debilitating.
Work and competitive sport are part of our everyday experiences. Working physically hard, undertaking repetitive work, or simply having fun or taking part in local cycling, swimming or triathlon events for charity often results in stresses, strain and injuries.
Remedial and therapeutic massage is a natural way of looking after ourselves and maintaining an active lifestyle. It is used extensively in the rehabilitation of work, sport and accident-based injury, and in the long-term maintenance of debilitative and chronic conditions.
Common injuries from the workplace, such as neck pain, overuse injuries and lower back pain can all be assisted by remedial massage techniques. Likewise, sports massage therapy has become a standard regime in big sporting clubs, and for sporting events or personal fitness goals that require extensive training.
Remedial massage improves circulation, reduces muscle tightness and breaks down adhesions and the build up of scar tissue. All of these can affect performance as well as a general sense of well-being. It is much better to be aware and prevent injuries from occurring first. Rather than suffering from the pain and discomfort after activity, it makes sense to avoid injury by having regular massage while training and for recovery purposes. This will help to optimise your performance and achieving your goals in whatever sport and fitness level you aspire to.